{"id":1698,"date":"2023-06-26T09:12:31","date_gmt":"2023-06-26T09:12:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/janbosch.com\/blog\/?p=1698"},"modified":"2023-06-26T09:12:32","modified_gmt":"2023-06-26T09:12:32","slug":"be-the-protagonist-of-your-life-conclusion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/janbosch.com\/blog\/index.php\/2023\/06\/26\/be-the-protagonist-of-your-life-conclusion\/","title":{"rendered":"Be the protagonist of your life: conclusion"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The last posts have taken us through 15 rules that I believe are important to ensure we\u2019re the protagonist of our own lives. As I wrote in the introduction to this series, I believe that those who read my content have in common that we take a proactive approach to life and view ourselves as the protagonists of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a concluding post, I thought I\u2019d explore the consequences of doing the opposite of each of the rules. What would happen if we would be the antagonists of our own lives, rather than the protagonists? What would be the most effective ways of making our lives as awful as possible?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Instead of owning it, blame everyone else<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No matter what happens, what the root cause is or what the consequences are, you always make sure to blame it on others. This makes you the victim of the situation and allows you to moan and complain while waiting for someone else to take care of it for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Instead of having a purpose, do what\u2019s expedient<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Embrace a nihilistic view of life in which nothing matters and everything is relative. This allows you to take on a hedonistic, self-centered life where you choose whatever feels good in the short term and is expedient. Louis XIV said it perhaps best: \u201cAfter us, the flood.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Instead of competing intentionally, go after everything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In every situation, engage in competition and do everything you can to show that you\u2019re better than those around you. And when you win, boast loudly and make those who didn\u2019t win feel as bad as possible. Of course, when you don\u2019t win, pretend you weren\u2019t really trying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Instead of questioning everything, believe everything at face value<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whenever anyone tells you why something happened, simply accept the explanation. When you feel a particular way or have a random thought pop up in your head, treat it as the truth as your feelings are infallible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Instead of saying hell yes or no, say yes to everything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whenever anyone asks you for anything, just accept and do whatever they asked you. Make sure to surround yourself with as many people as possible who ask for things so that you always feel overwhelmed and terrible about the fact that you haven\u2019t gotten around to dealing with some of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Instead of getting out of your comfort zone, stay smack in the middle<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t ever take risks and simply keep doing whatever you\u2019ve been doing for years. Why change what works? It\u2019s much safer to keep doing what you\u2019ve always been doing. When it gets boring and you feel like you\u2019re not growing, promise yourself that in the future, you\u2019ll change things. Kick the can down the road.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Instead of changing your mind, lock yourself to your initial position<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Once you\u2019ve made up your mind, fight to the death to keep the position you took at first. Believe with your whole heart that because you came to a conclusion perhaps years back, it\u2019s still the right answer and simply ignore any evidence to the contrary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Instead of using data, rely on your feelings<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whatever you\u2019re feeling is the truth and shouldn\u2019t be questioned. Use your outstanding storytelling machine to create justifications whenever there\u2019s a discrepancy between reality and your view of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Instead of taking care of yourself, let bad habits compound<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Accept weight gain as a normal consequence of aging. Don\u2019t exercise as it gets you sweaty, out of breath and uncomfortable. Eat and drink things that you know aren\u2019t good for you, but use them as a crutch to manage life. And whatever you do, don\u2019t sit down and think about who you are and what you want. Take a pill if you feel bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Instead of studying Stoicism and Buddhism, follow the latest fad<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The latest is the greatest, so whatever self-named guru pops up with some esoteric message, simply run after it and emulate whatever they\u2019re doing in the hope it leads to the same outcomes for you. And make sure to fight as many windmills as possible by focusing all your energy on things that you can\u2019t change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Instead of giving back, focus everything on yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whenever successful, claim that it\u2019s because of your abilities. If not, blame others. You got to where you are on your own and therefore everyone else should just do their own thing. Not your job to help them, so why waste time and energy on that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Instead of exploring, stay with what you know<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You tried out different things earlier in life and it all sucked majorly. You\u2019ve arrived at the optimal place in life, so it\u2019s now all about enjoying where you are instead of trying to improve. Especially as you\u2019re certain that any new thing you\u2019d try wouldn\u2019t lead to a positive outcome anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Instead of being proud of who you see in the mirror, don\u2019t worry about the consequences of your actions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Whenever you\u2019re faced with a challenging problem, simply act in the way that\u2019s most expedient. The end justifies the means, so as long as the goal is good for you, it doesn\u2019t matter how you get there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Instead of not taking yourself too seriously, make it all about you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re the only one who actually matters. Anyone who questions any of your statements or opinions is obviously wrong and needs to be smacked down as hard as you can. It feels right, so how can you possibly be wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. Instead of memento mori, go carpe diem<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t bother about the future, how to use your time well or the impact you want to accomplish. Instead, pretend you\u2019re going to live forever and delay everything that\u2019s important but hard until some undefined later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every day and every moment, we have a choice to make. Do we live by the principles and rules we set for ourselves and in line with what we believe to be our purpose? Or do we just continue on cruise control and lane keeping and keep doing what we\u2019ve always done and what feels right? The consequence of the latter is of course that you\u2019ll die well before you\u2019re dead, as Scott Stambach so neatly summarized. Instead, be the protagonist of your own life, focus on self-actualization and be all you can be, to quote a US military slogan. Live life to the fullest as, as far as I know, you only get to live it once!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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